Your Confidence Habit 7: Your emotional needs

"I have emotional needs that I didn't know I had, and I have physical needs that I didn't know weren't really needs." Dov Davidoff

What do you need in order to feel confident and happy?
 
We all have basic human physical needs, such as the need to breathe, eat, drink, sleep, to use our senses, and to seek shelter. We also have basic human emotional needs among which are:
 
• Security
• Connection & Belonging
• Autonomy
• Meaning
• Privacy
• Status
• Attention
• Competence & Control
 
When working in a group, our anxiety can increase if we think that our emotional needs might not be satisfied. Sometimes this existential anxiety (worrying in the moment) can trigger memories of emotional discomfort in the past (archaic anxiety):
 
• When we feel we might not belong, we can experience grief
• When we feel lost, confused and out-of-touch, we can experience fear
• When we feel incompetent or out-of-control, we can experience anger.
 
The strong emotional-thinking mind can over-power your ability to think calmly and logically in the heat of the moment. Prepare for this possibility by asking yourself what you really need. What is important to you?
 
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