“Freedom isn’t secured by filling up on your heart’s desire, but by removing your desire.” Epictetus, Discourses.
If the thing you desire is not in your control, how do you feel when you cannot have it? During more restricted times, what emotions did you experience when yearning for the touch of a loved one who cannot be touched or reached?
As you remove from the focus of your desire those things in your life that you cannot control, you’ll notice that the ever-decreasing circle ends up with you alone – and the thoughts you have. Get comfortable with this realisation of what is and what is not in your control, for this is where true inner resolve begins.