“Enough of this miserable, whining life. Stop monkeying around! Why are you troubled? What’s new here? What’s so confounding? The one responsible? Take a good look. Or just the matter itself? Then look at that. There’s nothing else to look at. And as far as the gods go, by now you could try being more straightforward and kind. It’s the same, whether you’ve examined these things for a hundred years, or only three.”  Marcus Aurelius, Meditations.

We all have our down days, when everything is not fair and we don’t have what we want. Life is not fair, that’s true, so what do you want to do about where you are now, if it’s not in your control to change it? Whingeing and whining and moaning and complaining isn’t the long-term solution.

Allow yourself to get it off your chest and then, when the emotions have passed, resume ‘normal’ function with sound logical and values-based thinking. Better still, ask a real friend to lend an ear for a moment. That’s what friends are for.