“Whenever you take offence at someone’s wrongdoings, immediately turn to your own similar failings, such as seeing money as good, or pleasure, or a little fame – whatever form it takes. By thinking on this, you’ll quickly forget your anger, considering also what compels them – for what else could they do? Or, if you are able, remove their compulsion.” Marcus Aurelius, Meditations.
How similar are you to the person whose actions you have chosen to be upset by? In what way would you react if in their shoes, faced with the same situation? How difficult or easy is it for you to empathise with them? How much help could you be to them, if only you could put your feelings to one side? You’re not the same pea, but you might just be from the same pod after all.