“For there are two rules to keep at the ready – that there is nothing good or bad outside my own reasoned choice, and that we shouldn’t try to lead events but to follow them.” Epictetus, Discourses.
You have the power to choose your attitude – the interest and value you place on things. Like a label on an item for sale in a shop, the labels and expectations you have are of your own making. Most other things are not in your control. To believe that you can ‘lead events’ is to line yourself up for emotional frustration. Take time to consider the labels you choose.