“Keep in mind that it isn’t the one who has it in for you and takes a swipe that harms you, but rather the harm comes from your own belief about the abuse. So when someone arouses your anger, know that it’s really your own opinion fuelling it. Instead, make it your first response not to be carried away by such impressions, for with time and distance self-mastery is more easily achieved.”
Epictetus, Enchiridion.
We are all different. We have different values – we place different levels of importance on things. It is therefore our choice as to how much importance we choose to apportion to opinions and acts of others that are intended to be harmful. A highly-sensitive person will differ from the thick-skinned person. But if we choose not to pay as much importance to these occasions, it follows that we’ll also not pay that much attention to them either. “So what?” we will ask ourselves.
If a tree falls in the forest, and there is no-one there to hear it, does it make a sound? Make the importance of these challenging moments so distant in time and space that they really can hardly be heard at all anymore.
Face Value Performance Psychology Limited.
Incorporated in England & Wales. Company Number: 10592410.
Registered Company Address: 85 Hunter House Road, SHEFFIELD, South Yorkshire, S11 8TU
® The Face Value, P3, S3 and 60 Minute Solutions logos are all Registered Trade Marks of Face Value Performance Psychology Limited.
Cookie | Duration | Description |
---|---|---|
cookielawinfo-checkbox-analytics | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics". |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-functional | 11 months | The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-necessary | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-others | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-performance | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". |
viewed_cookie_policy | 11 months | The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. It does not store any personal data. |